The last couple lines!!! Banger!! Couldn’t agree more like losing instagram followers when in a relo in my experiences is typically due to men unfollowing bc they feel like their shot is gone, not because it’s ’embarrassing’
before i read the original article, i thought it was kinda onto something (first thing i thought of was that sabrina carpenter song please please please lol)
i do think it’s become a bit cringe to have a boyfriend now, but as you said the article overemphasised the social media side of things. i think it feels more embarrassing because we’ve been subconsciously conditioned to believe we lose our feminism, “girl power,” and independence if we have a man. i also think part of the shift in how people talk about boyfriends comes from the rise of trad wife content and the over-romanticising of relationships as something that “fixes” your life. that’s a big reason why many women now find it embarrassing to have a boyfriend- you don’t want to be mistaken as conservative. this speaks more to social dynamics and broader cultural forces than just having a boyfriend, but i don’t think it’s only an online thing. i completely agree that its unfair that women are the ones to be saddled with all the responsibility
Doubling down on the soft launch discussion!! I think there’s also a layer of wanting to occupy someone’s brain for longer and feel like you’re making people think about you more- are you seeing someone, if so who, who is this mystery man? So much of the content I see online about “how to soft launch” is focused on this side of things, which I think further proves it’s not about men being embarrassing, and much more to do with your point of everyone acting like influencers! Loved this
Finally! I’m so sick of women agreeing with the vogue article in an effort to jump on a pseudo-feminist bandwagon. People don’t take into consideration the deeper personal and hence political reasons why a woman might not want to be partnered up - maybe they’ve witnessed the abuse of their mother, maybe they’ve been traumatized by their exes. Everything might be discussed in the online space but not everything revolves around the online space. I adore and appreciate this new perspective you’ve shed on the issue. Couldn’t have worded it better myself.
The last couple lines!!! Banger!! Couldn’t agree more like losing instagram followers when in a relo in my experiences is typically due to men unfollowing bc they feel like their shot is gone, not because it’s ’embarrassing’
before i read the original article, i thought it was kinda onto something (first thing i thought of was that sabrina carpenter song please please please lol)
i do think it’s become a bit cringe to have a boyfriend now, but as you said the article overemphasised the social media side of things. i think it feels more embarrassing because we’ve been subconsciously conditioned to believe we lose our feminism, “girl power,” and independence if we have a man. i also think part of the shift in how people talk about boyfriends comes from the rise of trad wife content and the over-romanticising of relationships as something that “fixes” your life. that’s a big reason why many women now find it embarrassing to have a boyfriend- you don’t want to be mistaken as conservative. this speaks more to social dynamics and broader cultural forces than just having a boyfriend, but i don’t think it’s only an online thing. i completely agree that its unfair that women are the ones to be saddled with all the responsibility
Doubling down on the soft launch discussion!! I think there’s also a layer of wanting to occupy someone’s brain for longer and feel like you’re making people think about you more- are you seeing someone, if so who, who is this mystery man? So much of the content I see online about “how to soft launch” is focused on this side of things, which I think further proves it’s not about men being embarrassing, and much more to do with your point of everyone acting like influencers! Loved this
i looooove this. that vogue article is such a chronically online work 😭
Finally! I’m so sick of women agreeing with the vogue article in an effort to jump on a pseudo-feminist bandwagon. People don’t take into consideration the deeper personal and hence political reasons why a woman might not want to be partnered up - maybe they’ve witnessed the abuse of their mother, maybe they’ve been traumatized by their exes. Everything might be discussed in the online space but not everything revolves around the online space. I adore and appreciate this new perspective you’ve shed on the issue. Couldn’t have worded it better myself.
Loved the last 2 paragraphs!